i have a close family member who is a pro in using shame to try to make me feel bad.
they are coming to stay at my place soon and the issue of me and mrs hoser not attending/ doing field service will come up no doubt.. i need some advice on how to deal with this because whenever i deal with these relatives they make me feel worthless.
it is probably part because they are jw's and jw's motivate by fear and guilt.. .
roflmao Ding and Defiant truth
Very good advice and things to think on hoser.
It's understandable that you're torn emotionally about how to handle your family. But, you must take of yourself. Don't allow people into your space who make you ashamed of yourself. At least until you know how to stand up for yourself and change the abusive interaction to a healthy one.
i have noticed that there are different reactions to learning the "truth about the truth".
some become quite bitter and angry and become very activist.
others seem to just move on quite easily.. .
I'm not perpetually angry or bitter. But I've had my moments. When something of value is stolen from you, anger and bitterness is a normal reaction. The more valuable the thing stolen and the less chance of recovering that stolen thing, the more intense the reaction will be.
Nothing wrong in that at all. Watchtower uses that angry/bitter apostate label to further discourage normal reactions to their particular brand of bullsh*t.
with the polar vortex swirling further and further south and breaking records how cold is it where you are?.
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here in gettysburg pa last night night we hit a low of -4 degrees but we were blessed with some wind that dropped the wind chill down to -22..
Northern Ohio -5 with windchill factors 30 below.
in a recent meeting with elders, an argument was used to the effect that jehovah has always [= throughout history] used, or operated through, an organization; therefore, the wts must be that organization today, since god must be using one.
naturally, i know what arguments i've used to counter that argument.
but i'm interested in hearing yours.
If he always had an organization, why did he need to designate a faithful slave in 1919? Why were they the only ones standing out as different???
i was born in 1970 to third generation jehovah's witnesses.
like all those born in, i was brought up without hope or guidance for a life in this world.
instead of being taught to be self sufficient and confident, i was trained to obey my parents without question (ephesians 6:1).
Check your pms, Black Man.
many other so called ice cream at grocery stores as well.
have you noticed how it seems to be different than from a couple years ago?
that it doesn't melt, it just warms up and becomes like a whipped cream texture?
The Breyer's Vanilla, Chocolate, Strawberry that is in my freezer is made with milk, cream, sugar, strawberries, whey, cocoa, tara gum, natural flavor, carob bean bum.
It's a 1.5Qt and says Ice Cream on the carton.
for those of you who have a minute to read this, here is a report from my family trip.. i was in florida for the holidays visiting my older sister and family, along with my parents which were also visiting.. although i've had conversations with my mother about the organization, my sister and her family had no idea of my position in regards to the (un)truth - perhaps because we live far away from each other.
i knew the day was coming.... on my second day there, the whole family was sitting around bs-ing about different stuff, and as usual my mother starts with the "world is getting worse by the day" conversation, followed by approving nods and smart remarks from the rest of the family.
i then politely told them that this was not true, that in fact the world has never been better.
Good job!
she replied to one of my posts.
my hope for you is that you will see "the truth about the truth".
i will be myself on this forum, as it has helped me immensly over the past 20 months.
i am not.
everyone makes mistakes..
I was embarrassed as a child a lot. Then I was embarrassed upon discovering I'd been in a cult my whole life. Now, I'm not embarrassed. It was the nature of the beast.
so strange that last night my experience was bothering me so much i posted about it here.
this morning my mother sent me a friend request after 20 months of no communication from her.
i replied in a message.. this is what i wrote:.
Good for you.
